“These People” Suck (It’s True)
You’ve probably heard the saying that you’re basically the sum of the 5 people you hang around most, right?
It’s pretty common business and personal development rhetoric and it basically means that we will become the people we spend the most time with.
And it’s TRUE.
Back when I hung out with a bunch of folks who loved to party and get into trouble, guess what I did?
(SIDENOTE: Some of them are still doing that stuff today, too)
And when I started hanging around business minded, motivated people, I’m sure you can tell what happened then.
See, the challenge is that most of us have picked our relationships based on proximity rather than purpose.
In other words, these are the people we grew up with, lived in our neighborhood, went to high school or college with, etc.
And many times these relationships aren’t even intentional, right?
I mean, you lean over to borrow a pencil in math class and next thing you know your best buds, having sleepovers and talking about your first kiss.
However, how different do you think your life would be if you intentionally selected your relationships based on your dreams, goals, and ambitions instead?
What if rather than gossiping – about people at work, who slept with who, who’s knocked up, and how unfair life is…
…you hung around people who were busy talking about the projects they’re working on, the wins they’ve had, and their excitement for the future?
I can tell you from personal experience that this one thing probably changed my life faster than any other single thing I did.
And it doesn’t have to be “hard” or “uncomfortable” either.
Anyone who really knows me knows that I’m mostly an introvert.
I don’t like introducing myself to people are striking up conversations with strangers.
I seriously suck at that stuff.
However, what I’ve found that works is putting myself in environments where these relationships build naturally.
In other words, I used to add myself to Facebook groups where people talked about online marketing and I would comment on things and ask questions.
Sure enough the friend requests would start rolling in and people would be messaging me.
I didn’t have to break the ice even one time yet I had empowering relationships that moved me forward.
Today I pay thousands – even tens of thousands – to attend events that will have attendees who are more successful than I am and have been where I want to go.
In other words, since we know that relationships often happen purely by proximity…
…I have found ways to put myself in the proximity of people who have what I want so that I can attract relationships that help me move forward.
And because of that, my goals, dreams, and ambitions aren’t beat up and torn apart by skeptical friends and family members…
…but are loved, appreciated, and supported by others who dare to dream, too.
CHOOSE your relationships, my friend.
And be okay with letting go of ones that don’t serve you.
Live your life out loud,
– Keala Kanae
Founder & CEO | Inspirean, Inc.